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Sistasizing: With Sista Monica Parker - Part 3

Thought Re-focus!

July 24th, 2009

A few people have come up to me and asked me about Sistasizing. They say they see the difference in my energy level. Some even see the slight change in appearance. They say that they are going to start.  Yes! I am still doing it.  I will be for the rest of my life. Sistasizing is a way of life, a shift in attitude about my health and fitness, a quality of life that makes me feel better, and most of all - it works!  You know the old saying “You can take a horse to the water, but you sure can’t make them drink”.  I have people in my life right now who are constantly telling me how tired they are and how their knees hurt, back hurts, and its hard to stand up, but they are doing nothing about the challenge they place on their bodies.  I say  “in due time, they will either poop or get off the pot”.  I know, a person has to be in the proper frame on mind to get healthy, fit and lose weight. I had to stop feeling sorry for themselves, do something physical and make better choices when I eat. That is what I did and I am better for it. Sure I mess up. I fall down, but I get right back on the saddle and keep on working out. Like the other day, I ate some pizza. I loved it going down, but honey I paid for it afterwards. I have not had that kinda grease in my body in weeks. It made my stomach hurt and I stayed up all night trying to digest it.

Thought Refocusing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

I keep on walking, and dancing, and singing and yes even kickboxing. I am moving to lose!  Thought refocus!  If I even think that I am going off track. I stop and think. Sometimes I do it on my walk. I stop! I go and sit down and meditate on what I want to feel like and look like and move like. I think about the size clothes I want to wear, and the events I want to go to with ease.  I think about the benefit of going into the grocery store and making my own choice now. I think about how close I am to tying my own shoes.  Each little thing I do I mark it down as another little milestone.  So when I fall down I get right back up again!  Come along! Sistasizing is a way of life!

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

The Knees Don’t Lie!

July 22nd, 2009

My knees are feeling so much better now that I have lost some weight in my core (stomach)  area.  Of course I am not near done. However,  I am sure that is a direct result of me moving my mid section.  I am told that kickboxing helps in flexibility, but also helps to trigger the muscles in the mid section and confuses them. This improves circulates and loosens fatty tissue that is stuck in portions of the body. I started a series of colonics(hydrotherapy) and it also helped me to move toxins out of my body.  I remember my knees hurting so much, but I never thought to get surgery. I felt that if I would just get some of this weight that would work. It worked! Now I have to keep it up. I am back to my rutine and feeling much better now that I am home. I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

Back From The Road - On Track

July 20th, 2009

I read somewhere that Eric Clapton said once, “I love going out on the road, however, when I am out on the road, I love being home”. Well..  I share those exact sentiments .  Seems so many of the conveniences of life are missing when you are out of town - far from home.  We just got back from a trip to Ontario-Canada, Detroit & Kalamazoo, Michigan, Chicago-Illinois and my home town Gary-Indiana. When home ih California, I don’t have to concern myself with what’s on the menu.  might-mike-schermer-and-sista-monica-obf-092I have my refrigerator and a salad bar close by.  I have my own schedule for exercise, and know exactly how long it will take to do certain things. But on this trip, we flew from California to Ontario, took a greyhound to Detroit. That took 14 hours. We drove from Detroit to Kalamazoo, performed a festival there and returned the van to Detroit, then flew to Chicago and returned home.  I was constantly on the move! I wish I had taken a little laptop with me cause ten at least I could continue to blog and log in my thoughts and activities on the road.

Now I am playing catch up!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        So now, I am back at home in the East Bay of California.  I gave myself the weekend to party with the choir at a Sista Monica Gospel Choir Pool Party on Saturday, and tomorrow I am back on program.    sm-gospel-choir-pool-party-at-les-jan-wright-house-2009-031sm-gospel-choir-pool-party-at-les-jan-wright-house-2009-055sm-gospel-choir-pool-party-at-les-jan-wright-house-2009-024sm-gospel-choir-pool-party-at-les-jan-wright-house-2009-049The thing I know to be true is that the road is tough.  I have so many people pulling for me though, plus I feel better eating better and working out.  I am encouraged to do the important exercise, water drinking and movement to sustain my path to good health.  I will spare you the details on the poor choices made on the road. Let’s just say my body rejects it cause I have not been feeling well since I ate some sugar and heavy carbs. The party is over. Back to work of saving my life.  One success on the road is not enough to keep me. Let’s go sistasizers! Pick it up! Hup to!

 We are playing Biscuits & Blues on Saturday, August 1, 2009 in San Francisco, CA. Two shows to perform. One will start at 8:00 p.m. for 75 minutes and the other at 10:00 p.m for 90 minutes. So I am definately back in the gym early tomorrow morning.  Tickets are available at www.biscuitsandblues.com.

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

Sista Monica w/Ben Harper - Cisco Blues Fest ‘09

July 17th, 2009

sista-monica-ottawa-kalamazoo-blues-festival-09-009I flew  in to Ottawa Ontario for the Cisco Ottawa Blues Festival on Thursday July 9, 2009.  This was the major festival that has been my 2nd milestone of my sistasizing 18 -24 month program. I promised myself that I would perform and complete the entire concert without sitting down. Yes I did!  With strong voice and lots of energy I sang,  told stories, danced, laughed and shook my behind off.

Honey, I walked on stage in the heat of the day. How did I do it? Well.. it was the

  • walking 10 minutes twice a day for a week in the heat
  • then 15 minutes twice a day for a week,
  • then 20 minutes twice a day for a week.
  • Then walking 6 days a week .
  • then it was kickboxing twice a week
  • riding my bike.

It took Eliminating

  • sugar
  • red meat
  • bread
  • crackers
  • cookies
  • pancakes
  • pastries
  • chips
  • sodas
  • empty snacks

Incorporating nutritious foods as fuel

  • green leafy vegetables; brocoli, asparagus, collards, string beans and even beats
  • omega rich fish; seabass
  • range free chicken
  • Fruits: fuji apples, oranges, bananas, watermelon, plums
  • lots of water  - Kangen Water

The stage was huge.  I moved through sound check and then came back and gave a pretty good set in front of thousands of music lovers.  After my set, Ben Harper and I met behind stage  for a meet & greet and big hug.

All the working out that I have been doing was well worth it. Below are photos of the crowd of more than 25,000 people, David Tucker on Drums, Danny Beconcini on piano and Hammond B3 and Mighty Mike Schermer on guitar, Chris Akin was on bass.  I got lots to say about my trip away.  However,  the main thing is that I did what I set out to do.  Danny B was so surpirsed that he said he would be a living witness for me! Stay tuned!  www.sistamonica.com

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

 

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True Independence Is Going Wherever - Walking!

July 6th, 2009

On Friday, July 3rd, 2009 I weighed myself and I have lost exactly 20 pounds.I have been sistasizing since May21, 2009 and I am happy with the progress so far.  I can breathe, walk, dance, sing, move around and go places when I want to. True Independence is when you can move and walk places that you never thought you could and have not done in a long time. I will not report another weight loss until I lose another 20 pounds. It is not about the weight, but about the health and fitness.

An Unexpected Pleasure

On Saturday, July 4th, 2009 I was invited by my sister - Charlotte to take the Bart (Bay Area Regional Transit) to Oakland, CA to view the fireworks.  I have to confess that I have never been a big fan of fireworks myself, however if I am all hugged up with someone or snuggling somewhere far away from the people and see them, then I am most pleased.  However, my baby sister asked  insisted that I come, so after many requests between she and Lesa, I decided to go.  I got on the BART from the East Bay,  travelled to 12th street and went up the elevator to go see the fireworks, but more importantly to see my baby sister.  Oh! I should tell you that from where you get off the Bart,  is a 12 block walk. Twelve blocks!  Yes! I knew this before I left, and doubted that I could do it. They said they would wait for me, if and when I had to stop.

Don’t talk to me when I am walking!

Just like I don’t like breathing hard in front of people, I really don’t want to talk when I am walking. Don’t ask me where we are going, how long it will take,  are we turning left or right or nothing.  Jay, a 14 year old scooter rider started out, is this the place? Lesa started with which way do we go from here? I on the other hand was quiet cause I know how I can be when I am concerned about making it somewhere. So I got real quiet! Charlotte, my loving sister - did not wait for us. She went on to see the fireworks, get her spot and called asking where we were?   I could tell, this was not going to be a good night.

Knowing where I am going is important for me.

I knew the direction, but to have to think about right or left, or how far we were going, was getting the best of me. I walked the first block, then the next, then the next. Finally, I knew that I had exceeded all the walkways in daily park walk that I do. My legs were getting to be automatic and it took everything I could to keep walking at a decent pace.  I refused to stop. I kept going straight to the Jack London Square.  Walking is true independence.  It was as if all the walks that I had done before were the exercise for this one walk.  I have not walked that far in at least 5 years.  I did it!

Resting in between is crucial

Finally, we made it to the fireworks! I was pissed because my dear baby sister went on before us, and didn’t wait. Plus, all the questions that were coming my way while I was trying to focus on my legs and breathing. More importantly, I wanted to make sure I could make it.  So in between the crowd, I found a chair to sit on until the works were over.  Guess what? I had to walk all the way back to the BART.  My legs was already tired from the first walk, then I did the walk back. Fortunately, we stopped at the Buttercut on Broadway and got a salad and some cranberry juice. Others ate like they eat, but I can’t afford to eat any old way. The stacks are too high for me. Hydration was important to me.

The Ones Who Love You To Play

I was very hot mad with my sister Charlotte for suggesting such an exercise, and Lesa for assuring me that I could do it. Love ones just want you to be a part of the action.  When you are usually the one that sits something out, they miss the energy that you bring to the event.  Charlotte just wanted me to participate. Lesa and Jay just wanted me to be out with them on the 4th of July. I just wanted to do what I normally do - sit at home.  I got on the Bart,  walked the 12 blocks, sat down, rested, walked back, got some nutrition and walked all the way back to the Bart. Never would I think I could do it.  The next day, my legs were dragging, my body felt more tired cause I needed to go to church and direct the choir, but child I made it. That is true independence!

I sing because I am Happy! I sing because I am Free!

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

6-weeks of Sistasizing

July 3rd, 2009

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 The first photo  on the left in white is May 21, 2009 was when I started this sistasizing blog and health and fitness journey.  The second photo is tonight July 2, 2009 after 6 weeks of sistasizing.  This is a long journey where I am committed to a minimum of 18 to 24 months of weight loss and physical fitness.  This first 6 weeks has been filled with clean eating,  taking vitamins, walking 30 minutes a day, drinking lots of water, kickboxing, bike riding, getting proper rest, and being accountable by blogging my progress.  I started at more thatn 300 pounds. I still do not know what I weight right now. However, I feel so much better with just about 15 pounds of weight loss (estimated). I feel so much better.

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

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Get A Supportive Partner - Household

July 1st, 2009

It takes more than just getting up and working out to be encouraged everyday.  For me, this blog helps me to be accountable. However, it is the partnership of Lesa Magee who works in tandem with me to keep me focused and on point.  Lesa has lost 35 pounds on her own by walking and cutting back on her food intake.  I noticed how well she was moving around and getting back and forth to do things.  I was encouraged to do the same. We live together and I love her dearly because of her positive upbeat, can-do-easy attitude. 

Even Soul Sisters can change their diets and ways.

We use to eat nothing but soul food, fried chicken, pancakes and waffles and potatoe chips, biscuits and cheese hamburgers.  Since I started sistasizing, Lesa got on board immediately, providing a wonderful example of how to eat clean, better and do daily self care.  I love her for who she is in my life and how supportive she is of me.  Finally we cleaned the refrigerator of all the unhealthy foods.  There is no cheat bags of food snuggled in a cabinet or corner. I am not even tempted with wrong food, cause we don’t buy it anymore. We exchanged everything for fruits and veggies.

A Support Household

I have to have a supportive partner.   Actually, if you are over 50 pounds overweight and you are trying to lose weight, and no one else is working to support your new lifestyle, it will be virtually impossible to make it happen.  Everyone should have a partner on their journey in life. Someone who has your back, does not create added stress, and welcomes the newness of good health and fitness.  husbands and wives, women and women, men and men, boyfriends and girlfriends or just friends and buddies need to support one another on the health and fitness journey.

Lesa is a great support for me. She cooks fresh, grilled foods, makes sure we have water in the house, and sometimes we walk together. I am funny about walking cause I don’t like for people to hear me breathe. Plus, she walks way faster than I do, so I always insist that she goes ahead.  At the end of the walk, so is very supportive.

In the beginning, she took my measurements,  went to the grocery store with me, and still today she helps to edit my blogs when she is not too busy.  After work Lesa goes for a work, and sometimes we go to the gym together.  I get to brag about what I am doing and she tells me what she is doing. How many reps, what feels good, what hurts, and other methods of getting fit and staying fitlesa2. We always encourage one another on drinking water.   When I am discouraged, she pulls out a blouse or something that I was not able to wear and suggests that I try it on. I do and it fits! 

No clones, just a true partner

I never wanted someone to be like me.  However, to have someone who understands the importance of being supportive and appreciative in a lifestyle change is a very good thing.  Plus,  since she is losing, I look forward to one day wearing those new clothes that she can no longer wear. She has moved from a 18 to a 14 and going to a 12. Right on Lesa!

Lesa, thank you so much for your love and support! I don’t take it for granted and appreciate you so much.  Change for the better is a good thang.  God blesses us daily!

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

Alkaline Water - Hydrotherapy - Feeling Better

July 1st, 2009

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Drink water! Hydrate! Drink water!

The magic of water

water-2The Medical Intuitive suggested a while back that I purge! She said that I need to make sure that I eat lots of green vegetables, exercise, eat plenty of fruits, and drink more water. Lots of water! More importantly,  clean out my system by taking a series of colonics (hydrotherapy) sessions. Of course, I resisted the colonics.  My sister - Charlotte suggested that I start the veggies for a while first. That was my easy out.  However, recently, I have heard about the advantages of it and thought that I should try it.  It’s been 5 weeks of sistasizing and I am ready to take it to the next level.

I went to Sharon Jacobs - the owner of Health Unlimted located at 400 29th street in Oakland, California.  Her business phone number is 510-625-1914.  She is a professional with lots of knowledge and experience.  So I felt comfortable.  What I liked about the experience was that she explained the process to me.  The session only took about 45 minutes.  I got up, drove home, and drank lots of water.  Three (3) hours later, I went to 24 hour fitness and did my exercise routine.

Today’s routine was very good. I am making some progress!

  • Early morning at 9:30, I walked my usual walk, except what use to take me 30 minutes now takes 18 minutes to complete. 
  • At 11:00 a.m.,  I went for hydrotherapy for 45 minutes.
  • at 3:00 p.m. I had a meeting cancel, so I went to the gym to finish my normal workout.
  • This time I was able to do a 30 minute walk on the thread mill.  I started at 1.5 speed and went to 2.5 in the 30 minutes.
  • I slowed down to 2.0 the last 5 minutes.
  • I made the treadmill go to 1.5 on the incline.

What was amazing was that I felt lighter, stronger and at ease during my workout. 

  • What helped? I placed the towel over reader on the machine to ignore my distance and time.
  • I drank Kangen water -  ionized water - alkaline water. My cousin Chris introduced it to me. He told me that it is good for releasing toxins from the body.  If you read the earier blogs, you will note that I am impressed with his self-care.  So I have started drinking it for the past two days.  Remember,  I said that I would only drink Aquafina and Dasani? I have been sort of a water snob.  Well… this is better than those two brands of water. This water taste very good.   I will keep drinking it to see if it does  what it claims.
  • I ate some roasted chicken for protein today.

Water is so important in this hot climate. It helps to digest the foods that we eat, cool our bodies down, hydrates our ograns,  and also helps me (especially) from feeling tired! 

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I went to Sista Monica band rehearsal tonight and the guys said I sang great and moved even better.

 

I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizing!

Shifting Gears In The Heat

June 29th, 2009

walking for wellnessThe weather is turning up in the East Bay of California. Temperatures are rising! I love walking outside, however I have to be careful not to over do it in this hot water.  I went to the gym this morning to meet my new personal trainer.  She did more flexibility training than what I do which is cardio and resistance.  So now, I feel like I need to do more.  I will go for a walk.  So to protect myself, I will wear my straw hat and sunglasses.  I am wearing my short pants and t-shirt. 

I got through the week after learning about Michael’s death without over indulging.  Wow! It  was emotional.  So many feelings, opinions, attitudes to flush out! It was good seeing Janet last night on B.E. T. She was brief and thoughtful. She looked beautiful, and yet raw with grief. Let’s continue to pray for the Jackson family! Like call their name out when we pray. Then turn the prayer on ourselves. Everyone is a blessings and every on is a gift.

Before I go for a walk, I will drink a few glasses of water, keep my vitimins, and make sure I have enough nutrition.

If I find that I am not able to walk my full walk, then I will shift gears to do some swimming, or ride my bike or something that is not as strenuous in the heat.

I am Sista Monica & I am Sistasizing!

Who’s Minding The Store? - Michael Jackson

June 26th, 2009

Who was looking out for Micheal?

candle-flameI did my walk this morning. Same place that I always do it.  This time I never once got tired. I started slow as usual and turned on my playlist to Micheal Jackson as promised to myself. I will celebrate his life and legacy until further notice.  I thought it was James Brown that would take me out of here, in terms of musical Icons.  However, Michael’s  tragic death has me stunned, shocked and  yet in disbelief.  Who was minding the store? My first song this morning was “Gone Too Soon” written by Michael Jackson. 

Like A Rainbow
Fading In The Twinkling Of An Eye
Gone Too Soon

Shiny And Sparkly
And Splendidly Bright
Here One Day
Gone One Night

Like The Loss Of Sunlight
On A Cloudy Afternoon
Gone Too Soon

Like A Castle
Built Upon A Sandy Beach
Gone Too Soon

Like A Perfect Flower
That Is Just Beyond Your Reach
Gone Too Soon

Born To Amuse, To Inspire, To Delight
Here One Day
Gone One Night

Like A Sunset
Dying With The Rising Of The Moon
Gone Too Soon

Gone Too Soon

michael-jackson-younger-31I listened to the lyrics and the tenderness in his voice. I discerned how poignant this song was to his life. There was a children’s playground where I walk in Pleasanton, at Armador Park.  It reminded me of the innocence of a young child, back in Gary, Indiana, where we all were born and raised - Michael, the Jackson Five, Janet and I.  I had to sit down there, take myself back and begin to weap. Tears begin to flow into my sunglasses down my face.  I sat and thought about the journey he took, from the tiny home to world fame, then died at 50.  Nobody knows the trouble he has seen. michael-jackson-younger

Emotions - Tears, to Anger, then to Musical Happiness

I cried for him, Janet, the mother, Jermaine, LaToya, Randy, the father and the rest of the family.  I cried because his life revealed so much of the dysfunction in all of our families.  When we give up on one another in families. How we abandoned the nurturing that is necessary to feel whole and complete by our family members?  How we do it to ourselves - this separation and dismissal of the contribution others who really know us can make, because we need love.  Then, I became angry that he was gone. Wondering who was looking out for Michael? Who was minding the store? We all saw that Michael was hurting many years ago.  Changing his hair, his skin, his looks. That is a cry for love.  As an artist, I know  that it is easy to assume that because the masses adore you, but nobody is there.

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The media and comedians laughed and made money with their jokes and gestures.   Michael was one of the walking wounded. Like Phylis Hyman and Donny Hathaway - Michael  died in a slow, long, drawn out way.  Stressed from the fame, the pain, the lies, the truths that were told about him.  I dare anyone to listen to his music and not feel the passion, love and spirit of God coming through him. He loved people and all he wanted was to be loved. 

Then I moved to “The Way You Make Me Feel”,  “Billy Jean”, “I’ll Be There”, “We Are The World”, “Man In The Mirror”, “Black or White”. I downloaded everything that Michael ever made that I did not already have.

Thank God for music - Michael’s Music.

Because there is beat, groove, structure, a pulse that you can count on, his music crosses generations, and cultures, and moves throughout the world.  I do not care about the debt he left behind.  I do not care about the tragedy of his life in terms of child allegations, the money he spent to defend himself. I care that we all look at how we treat people who make it. A star is to be admired, not shot down from the sky.  So when the media shows me pictures of his debts, and his supposed child abuse, I turn off the TV. I will not take that it anymore. 

This is a day that I have to really watch my emotional self and be mindful. I want to just sit down at the IHOP, Denny’s or anywhere that has belgium waffles and pancakes. I want comfort food. Michael Jackson was a musical genius and strategically, methodically he was swept away by prescription drugs designed to mask the pain of his life.  Why?  Why do we leave our loved ones alone when they ask us to? Why do we watch them go down in shame? Why is it so easy for the media to continue bashing this brilliant, yet tortured man? 

Humanitariun Contributions

I want to see more about his humanitarian contributions. What about “We Are The World”? How he brought so many musicians together to fight world hunger? How about the examples that he paved for people like Usher, Prince, P Diddy, Janet, Beyonce and so many others. Nobody danced like Michael. No body sang like Michael. No body could give like Michael to countless children. Sure it is easy to focus on the affection he had for young boys. But he also had affection for young girls, but people never focuses of that. They want to make him in to a freak. So he became freakish! Changing his looks because the brother had been beaten down, criticized, left alone, abandoned by his family, and eaten by the media and people that leach onto people vulnerable with money.

Today, I will burn a candle and pray for the world around me, for the family, for the world filled with hate and love.  It’s obvious! I am having a hard time with Michael’s death. “Gone To Soon”

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I am Sista Monica and I am Sistasizng!

 


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